I don’t know why, but we are living in a society where if we don’t have a certain amount of friends on Facebook or we are spotted in a cafe on our own; people tend to call us ‘’weirdo’s’, ‘loners’ or other not nice adjectives.
Growing with such a thoughts, makes us feel uncomfortable and if we are quite shy, and not easy to make friends- this can make us feel quite sad and often people develop depressions and anxiety ending up worrying to much. Is it okay to be alone?
Today, I am touching a rather sensitive subject but I just want to show you that yes, is okay to be alone and there is nothing to be ashamed of. I absolutely love being alone lately, and don’t get me wrong, yes I do have friends and I do like to socialise sometimes but not as much as a few years before. Today, I have teamed up with the gorgeous brand Christy and showcase they amazing bedding set. I thought this would be perfect for this post! I hope you enjoy it! Ps. Tweet me with #awmoments and let me know what you enjoy the most with you ‘alone’ moments?
I have been in groups of people where people discuss other people and sometimes they would simply slag others off if they spot that they haven’t got many friends on Facebook or in general. People find this suspicious and assume that there must be something wrong with that person. Wouldn’t they think of such a simple thing like maybe that person just want to be alone? Maybe he/she doesn’t really want a loud environment around, constant distraction of notifications on social media, meeting people in town every evening etc. (therefore spending loads of money!) Everyone is different.
For many years, I would live with the constant self-judgment that perhaps I am a loner because I don’t post ‘’selfies’’ every day from different town locations and friends escapades. Don’t get me wrong, I am not a total introvert and I do like to spend time with people but I don’t see an urge to ‘’collect’’ certain amount of people just so I look right to the society. In the past, I was desperate for people to tag me on social media, if we out or I would tag other just to ‘prove’ -Hi, look I have friends!
|my alone moment and ‘meow’ hot chococlate mug|
Yes, I was pretty desperate then. I would get mad if these people wouldn’t call me or wouldn’t let me know if they are out. Mostly, not because I felt lonely but I felt weird that I wasn’t invited and perhaps there must be something wrong with me. Like, why they wouldn’t invite me? Have I done something wrong? Have I said something wrong? I would completely self-judge myself before anyone else judged me. It took me a while to understand that wait a second, I quite like to be alone sometimes. I just like to spend time at home, be alone. The time I can do all my work, watch my favourite movies or just rethink and re-pause. This is when I started my blog, this is when I started actually achieving something. I no longer tried to prove anythig to anyone, just to myself. So Yes, it’s okey to be alone sometimes.
Especially, I love spending time in my bedroom. I change my bedding every week, not only for hygienic reasons but also I like to change the mood in my room and create an inspiring environment where I can write my posts, relax or just read. You will most likely find me in my bedroom with my laptop table on and cats sleeping at the end of the bed (like the scenario below).
|Maru i Mia synchronisation. I love being home for this type of moments..|
So, here my few tips how to enjoy time alone and not feel guilty about it.
Understand your needs. In this society, if you are a young person and an introvert who actually enjoy to spend time at home and be alone, you are judged. But this is wrong, so screw you society. You shouldn’t and don’t feel guilty about it. What you should do is comes to terms with yourself and understand that this is what you need and what you want. If some people keep posting pictures from night outs and dinners while you at home, don’t feel guilty for not joining them. This is not what you want so don’t feel bad about it. You are in your own home, at your own comfort and just enjoy that.
Two types of ‘alone’ people. The first type is those who chosen to stay at home because they want to and second are those who desperate want to join but are not invited. Most of the time these two people, are one. You know why? Because sometimes, deep down we do want to be alone but because of the social stigma we feel guilty not to join and then we feel bad about ourselves that we are not out. When you not invited, most of the times is just down to just message few people and asked them if you can join. As simple as that. Sometimes we are to ‘’proud’ or to shy to ask if we can join or use this as an excuse not to go out. Simply, because You know if you go out you will not enjoy, and most is down feel anxious in public places or being to shy to speak out and while being out there you pray you can go back home. Find what person you are, and just accept that because you are not out because people don’t want you out, you are not out because you don’t want to so stop blaming other and take the ”responsibility’ and turn into an actual enjoyment.
Make your bedroom your place. Change your bedroom covers every week not just for hygienic reasons but just to keep the mood. You need a good environment to enjoy that ‘me’ moments. Having your own ‘hygge’ moment every night will help you to relax. Hygge was not only just so we can have a trend, of course not. This trend became popular because there is so many of us, who just simply like to spend time alone and we no longer need to come up with excuses. Creating a cosy environment in the bedroom will only help embrace yourself. You will feel more comfortable and recharge the batteries. So switch off facebook, switch off the computer and just pause. Also, is important that you style your bedroom according to your mood and surround yourself with soft and silky textures and calming colours.
For example, my bed linen is from Christy and I adore it. I love that it has really beautiful and elegant pattern, yes, very sophisticated look and my Peonia Shell pink sheet set with pilllow covers brings my favourite pink blush vibes to the bedroom. ( You know I can’t live without pink!) My Oslo throw is the softest throw I have ever own. Surprisingly, it’s quite heavy yet as soon as you wrap yourself, it makes you feel so warm. It looks great on its own as well. I also upgraded this year my Christy duvet and I can’t even express how much difference it makes! Now, I love to steal my duvet to the living room as well to watch movies. It’s warm yet it doesn’t make me feel overheated during night, keeping the perfect temperature. It’s the best duvet I have owned. So, embrace this ‘me’ moment and invest in a good quality bed linen. You will see how it will make you will special and you won’t feel any slight of guilt waking up wrapped with such a great textures and patterns. Just enjoy it and don’t feel pressured, and the only selfie to post on Facebook is while having your coffee in a bed or morning breakfast in bed. Make ‘them’ jealous of your moments!
Save money and get educated. Instead of spending the money on cocktails and expensive dining out, buy yourself something useful. Buy those books you always wanted or pay for Netflix subscription. Perhaps, it’s a course you always wanted to start? or this crazy stupid love book that you want to read again? Just do it. Being alone means, you can do all you wanted because YOU WANT to and not because you have to. Make this time useful. Even if this is a Saturday night and everyone else is out posting a selfie from a bar. So what? You are learning this course, and you not getting wreck, strangling your ankle or breaking your phone (talking from an experience!) You won’t get up with a terrible hangover and half account gone to due to expensive (and disgusting) tequila. ( I have to make a point here, I love tequila when I am drunk- I hate tequila when I am sober- and this is me sober writing!)
Take care of yourself. Take nice baths, invest in good quality towels like mine Luxe towels from Christy. These are super soft but also the colours are calming and just looks beautiful. I love taking bath and then snuggle in these while doing my hair, paint my nails and having my own pampering night. It makes me feel special and I don’t know what it is but it really makes me feel so good about myself. Imagine, seating on the bed wrapped in a comfy towel after warm bath painting your nails- doesn’t that sound lush? Just do it. There is nothing to feel guilty about it. Each of my ‘towel wrapped’ photos looked rather inappropriate so decided not to post them – I’m far from a porn star 😉 sorry guys! I hope I convince you by showing the picture of them on my side chair, Just look at this texture! Isn’t inviting already? There is a million reason, and this is one of them to just feel super okey to be alone.
|Christy Luxe towel set Pear & French Grey|
Be super productive. Write down ideas you have for yourself, make plans and see what you like the most. Some people think that if you staying at home and you decided to be alone then you must be super bored with yourself. How wrong! Use this time for a self-improvement and to make plans on what you want to do with life. Arrange and schedule your posts, create media pack or organise newsletter. Being productive and seeing results of that, is more satisfying than wake up and realising you did nothing. Some of my friends who always go out, alway tell me how they admire that I did so much. I wouldn’t be able if I would be constantly out, would I? if you are not blogger, then perhaps become one if you like writing? Cook meals for next day, make your new year goals a reality and start the gym or go that make up course?. Don’t sit there in front of facebook while watching friends selfies from night out. Just don’t. Use this time for something that is useful and productive. Don’t feel sorry for yourself, you don’t want to be out but you don’t want to waste this time either.
Remember, some people just simply don’t have an idea for themselves and they try to mask that by endless parties, dinner outs or being somewhere with people. We all have excuses and you would be really surprised to see that what you are doing while being alone to your future, is more than just posting selfies on a Saturday night. You are creating yourself and don’t feel guilty about it. Seriously, It’s okey to be alone so screw you society!
- I was gifted the bedding set from the kind people of Christy but of course, opinion, grammar mistakes and sarcasm are my very own!
Christy kindly gifted Oslo Throw to one lucky reader! Please read the below T&C first! Good Luck! 🙂